Only Connect

 

There’s something delicious about the solitude of drafting a piece of writing. Sitting alone at five a.m. before the sun comes up and the four-year-old gets out of bed, fueled by the steam of coffee and the mist of morning. Or drawing notebook from backpack and crawling onto a mossy boulder to describe a blue butterfly’s silence.

Hunkering down to carefully craft what you want to say—whether plotting a climatic sequence or artfully developing a metaphor—can feel quite intimate. Sometimes it seems all we want is to dwell there, in that quiet, creative place, and work and rework. While at other times all we want is to share what we find there with readers. To be read. Be heard. To “only connect,” as E.M. Forester writes.

That yearning has been with writers for millennium—to take private thoughts and through sheer artistry and grit, transform them into words crafted so well they link us inextricably with readers, like the stars connected by our ancestors into constellations that shine on forever with significance. Nodes of connection from one person’s solitude to another’s.

But the line drawn from writer to reader, that brings words from private drafts to public pages, isn’t as easy as connect-the-dots, and is much harder for us to control than what our pens produce on quiet coffee-fueled mornings. We can’t make that link by staying in the heady realm of solitude. We need to reach out to the public network—whether we work to entice editors or agents, or build our own platforms to entice readers, or a bit of both.

Convincing others that our work deserves a readership can be one of the most difficult things about the writer’s life. And the delicious ease of solitude may morph into the frustration of bitter alienation as our writing struggles to find its way in the world. We can feel shut out, unheard—apart, rather than connected.

That’s one reason Kimberly Behre Kenna, who talked with Writers’ Inlet this month, said if she had to give one piece of advice to our group of writers, it would be this: reach out to other writers. Become part of a community. (And as Jessica Vitalis talked about in October, you’ll likely find more than one community along the way.)

Kimberly Behre Kenna’s debut novel Artemis Sparke and the Sound Seekers Brigade, “the story of a twelve-year-old girl who conjures up help from deceased ecologists to save a Long Island Sound salt marsh from certain death,” is coming out in 2023. —Watch my interview with her below:

Community comes in all shapes and sizes—a weekend online class, a large online pitch forum, a thousand-plus-person conference, or a poetry reading you attend on a whim in a room with five other attendees.

A critique group may act as “first responders” and help revise everything from your first draft to final. A writerly book club may be there at a chosen touchstone on the path, to share war stories about separate journeys, reveling in the victories and commiserating in the defeats.

It’s not only a comfort to find company with other writers on the writer’s journey—it’s a marketing strategy. That act of reaching out again and again can be a catalyst for your author platform. In other words, hearing from others, and sharing your writing process with others, gives you ideas and opportunities for building an audience for your work—and those writers (and their readers) are also potential readers for your work.

That six-attendee poetry reading may lead you to a lit journal’s craft class, which may lead you to a peer recommendation of a writing coach, who may lead you through a finished memoir draft that may at some point lead you to a close-knit group of other writers launching books at your manuscript’s publishing house, like the new community Kimberly Behre Kenna found herself part of when her book got picked up by Regal House/Fitzroy Books.

Like Kimberly and so many other writers, as you keep connecting, you’ll find yourself amidst a flowing network of inlets and outlets supporting your writing life. And to enter the inlet into that network, all you need to do is simply start showing up to groups and reaching out—which in turn helps you show up more to the page. A day of satisfying connections may be as simple as writing in a room of your own for one hour, and the next hour, logging onto Zoom and raising a glass of chardonnay to a peer’s publication—or your own.


I’m here at Writers’ Inlet to help you write your way to destinations intended or discovered as you go—and support you as you carry your craft forward from one body of work to the next. In fact, that’s what we’ll be talking about at the Inlet next trimester: Carrying Your Craft: How to Sustain Your Writing Practice for the Long Haul. All writers of any genre can join my upcoming “Carrying Your Craft” Monthly Craft Intensive this coming winter/spring, and apply to my new nine week “Carrying Your Craft” class. Applications are currently open to newsletter subscribers or Inlet course writers. Contact me for details: angelarydell@gmail.com.  

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